i would much rather be the “obnoxious feminist girl” than be complicit in my own dehumanization, thanks
things i am thinking about today: the insidiously fucked-up ways biphobia is hugely internalized in the bisexual community
because most, if not all, of the bisexual people i know (including myself) experience imposter syndrome related to their sexuality at some point. you know how it is - OH NO, I’VE ONLY CHECKED OUT LADIES TODAY, I’M ACTUALLY SECRETLY A LESBIAN, WHAT HAVE I DONE, or I’VE BEEN DATING THIS DUDE FOR A YEAR, I MUST BE STRAIGHT AFTER ALL, and it’s really disturbing every time? like you’re fooling everyone into believing you’re really, genuinely bi but here’s this incontrovertible evidence that you’re not?
and this is obviously a direct offshoot of that lovely ~lying bisexual~ trope; it’s okcupid saying that because most self-id-ing bisexual people only message women or only message men (ignoring, of course, that many bisexual people only use online dating for exclusively same-sex exploits because it’s so much easier to do the other offline); it’s dan savage saying most bi men are lying to their partners; it’s assuming that bi people in longer-term relationships have given up on their sexuality in favor of (partner-oriented)sexuality.
and just. man, biphobia really has done a number on us all.
you know what it fucking sucks when you have so many books to read but school keeps getting in the fucking way and you just get homework everyday and it’s like goddamn it motherfucker i juST WANT TO FUCKING READ MY BOOKS I DON’T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT SCHOOL I WANT TO READ MY FUCKING BOOKS
god just like. the sheer irony of the fact that mary shelley wrote frankenstein when she was still a teenager. a teenage girl. founder of modern sci fi story telling. and yet now teenage girls are sneered at when they show an interest in ~nerd culture~ and sci fi. i just. man.